• Fertility,  Secondary Infertility

    Our IVF story Part 2: Before egg retrieval.

    March 2017 I decided to keep a diary of my first experience with IVF. Partly so I can remember everything in this chapter of our fertility journey, partly for therapy (writing is what keeps me sane) and partly to educate. I know that even I went into this without knowing all of the ins and outs and timelines. If you’ve been through it, I wonder if you can relate. If you haven’t, I urge you to read this anyway. Chances are, someone in your life will struggle with infertility and you may be a much better support if you have an insight into what a person might be going through.…

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    Our IVF story – Part 1: Deciding what to share about our IVF experience.

    I wrote this in February 2017. Mr Unprepared and I had just started seeing a doctor at a specialised fertility clinic. We had been given an information overload at our first appointment, after being told by the doctor (a real straight shooter with a quirky sense of humour) that he could send us for more medicated cycles but if pregnancy hadn’t happened by now, it probably wasn’t going to. He suggested IVF and said we could decide to wait another couple of cycles before seeing him or just sign ourselves up and get it moving after waiting so long for some kind of definitive progress. We were so ready to move…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 11 – A typical cycle on fertility medication.

    This is part 11 of my secondary infertility experience. I’ve been documenting it throughout – since 2015. After we finally received the news that we are finally expecting a little one in early 2018, I feel ready to share the stories that I had kept inside for so long. I hope that they will help others to feel not so alone. I also hope to give family and friends some insight into what was happening at the time, as it was hard to talk about (or just seemed like a shit topic at social gatherings). You can catch up on the first 10(!) instalments here:  Part 1 Part 2 Part 3…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 10 – Feelings before a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy.

    May 2016 You can catch up on the rest of the story so far, here:  Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6 Part 7 Part 8 Part 9 I am only a few days out from having a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy. Where the doctor looks to remove the endometrioma cyst on my ovary, search around for any obvious causes for my inability to get pregnant, and scrape out any other endometriosis from anywhere it should not be. I am also sick with a cold and my period is supposed to be due any minute. I am in a foul mood and I am struggling to…

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    Our secondary infertility journey: Part 9 – Stop telling infertile people to ‘relax’.

    When I wrote this in March 2016, I was in a tough place. I kind of got my ranty pants on. But reading it back, I don’t regret it and I don’t have any problem with sharing it now. I hope it doesn’t ruffle anyone’s feathers or make anyone feel defensive – that’s not my intent. I know people mean well. I’m just trying to shed some light on what it’s like when you’re struggling.  You can catch up on the rest of my story so far here: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6 Part 7 Part 8 Mr Unprepared and I are going through…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 8 – After the first round of Clomid

    This post was written in March 2016 – after my first medicated cycle. Let’s just say it didn’t exactly go ‘to plan’.  You can catch up on previous instalments of my story here… Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6 Part 7 So…I was cautiously optimistic about starting Clomid during my last cycle. I didn’t expect it to help me become miraculously pregnant first time around, but I did hope that perhaps something promising would appear in my ultrasound. Something to tell me that I was going to ovulate up a storm etc. I was nervous before my scan, but hopeful. I’d had a strong…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 7 – Clomid

    This was written in February 2016. It hadn’t been published yet as I just wasn’t ready. In hindsight I can see that I was clearly more hopeful than I let myself believe. I actually feel quite sad for the February 2016 me because I know she had a lot more to go through before any good news was to be received. This was the beginning of a really rough year.  You can catch up on anything you may have missed here… Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6 In our continued efforts to get me knocked up (we’re hitting the 18 month mark of trying to conceive),…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 6 – Only Child?

    I wrote this on the 27th December, 2015 (we’d been trying to conceive since July 2014). I have been chronicling my/our journey through secondary infertility. While it’s not something I wanted to publish right away, I couldn’t stop myself from needing to write our story.  You can catch up on previous instalments of this story here… Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 As I sit here typing, I am waiting for my period. Like literally waiting. I’m a day late and while a small, eternally hopeful part of me is getting a bit excited (despite my better judgement), I know that I am more than likely…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 5 – Ovulation Tracking

    This post was written in December, 2015. We’d been trying to conceive since July 2014.  You can catch up on parts 1 to 4 here… Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 As I write this, I am coming to the end of a cycle of ovulation tracking by blood tests. It’s been quite the time consuming process and I have spent a lot of time hanging out with phlebotomists in pathology clinics. I have had to have tests at least every few days (sometimes a few days in a row) and it has been a bit exhausting! When I first started doing it, I was already getting used…

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    Our secondary infertility story: Part 4 “Don’t forget – you’ve never been clucky”

    This blog post was written in November 2015, during our journey with secondary infertility. We decided not to talk about it much back then (to protect our privacy and because today’s topic was really difficult), but I just couldn’t stop writing.  Catch up here… Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 My mum looked at me and said, “But darling, you’ve never been clucky.” In that moment I was a little taken aback. Oh yeah. That’s true. How did I forget that? What the hell were we talking about, you ask? Well, I had been talking to my mum about how it was really difficult to see so many people around…