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100 Happy Days wrap up.

Yep. It’s me again. Talking about happy stuff. As usual. Geez. Give the corny gratitude shit a rest, you psychopath! Is what I imagine people think when they see yet another “happy” blog post title from me.

The thing is, I am not always happy. I get anxious, flat, sad and angry. And I don’t think it’s realistic to make yourself believe you can be happy 100% of the time. That’s a lot of pressure and a lot of inevitable disappointment, right? But I look for the ‘happy’ I can find, whenever I can. I work really hard at focusing on the positives – sometimes I succeed and other times I suck at it and figure tomorrow’s a new day. And that’s OK.

After 2016, I wasn’t sure what kind of year 2017 would be. I still don’t know – it’s only April! All I knew was that I was tired and that 2016 SUCKED. It had a very heavy, anxious, not-getting-anywhere energy about it. It was full of setbacks and disappointments. Insecurity.

Even though I know that we do not always have control over some of the shit that gets thrown our way, I really really really did not want 2017 to be more of the same. The one thing I could control was my attitude and my actions/reactions (well mostly haha).

When I heard about the #100happydays project, I was inspired. This would be how I’d start the new year. I would take a photo every day for 100 days of something that had made me happy.

An excerpt from the website…

People successfully completing the challenge claimed to:
– Start noticing what makes them happy every day;
– Be in a better mood every day;
– Start receiving more compliments from other people;
– Realize how lucky they are to have the life they have;
– Become more optimistic;
– Fall in love during the challenge.

Sounds awesome, right? I figured it would also help to keep me inspired and improve my story telling ability on Instagram.

So how did it turn out?

Pretty well! Sure, I took over 100 days to actually get there. But 100 photos were taken and lots of memories and cool stuff were recorded! I found myself looking each day for something great to photograph on my iPhone. Posting on Insta had gone from feeling like a sporadic chore to a fun part of my daily life. I found myself saying ‘yes’ to weird and wonderful things (a pumpkin festival anyone?) in order to experience the joy of something new and different! It was fun to capture those moments in photos.

While I admit that this challenge did nothing to quell my social media addiction, it did make me addicted to looking for beauty in each day. Even though I have officially finished the challenge now, I think I will keep doing more of the same. It really did make me feel good.

It’s so great to look back on the amount of life you can fit into 100 days!

I have only included some of the highlights here, but if you want to scroll back through all 100 days, you can visit my Instagram account: @awesomelyunpreparedblog ?

Would you consider doing this challenge? Have you done this challenge before? How did you go? 

 

The Happy List #16

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It’s that time of the week again! I’ve really been lucky enough to make it a week that included some decent self care. Here are the things that have made me happy in the last week…

I got my hair cut

I was starting to feel a bit shaggy and tired with my hair long. I hadn’t had an appointment since October 2014. I don’t know how that happened! It was mostly by choice (I didn’t feel the need and didn’t mind growing it longer), but to be honest, it was also a logistical thing. I kept choosing other stuff to do with my precious alone time. I didn’t want to ‘waste’ the few hours it would take to get my hair done and to be honest, I wanted to put my money elsewhere too.

I didn’t have anything crazy done – just lopped off the dry ends and turned my long hair into a long bob. Or a shaggy lob as I am told it is called. I think I’ll coin the term shlob. Very fitting haha.

My hair feels and looks so much healthier and I feel refreshed. Yay. I don’t think I’ll wait that long between appointments next time!

I painted my nails

I had left my nails plain for a while. It was fun to take the time to put some new polish on and get some glitter on those tips! I felt classier right away. Hair AND nails in one week – FANCY!

But wait, there’s more!

I upgraded my Fitbit from a Flex to a Charge HR

I had wanted to do this for ages, because I loved the idea of being able to track my heart rate and get more of an accurate idea of what my body is doing each day. I am highly motivated by seeing my stats. I love my new tracker! It has given me the boost I’ve needed to keep working at things. I love that it has an actual watch style strap (I broke the clasp on my flex countless times), tells me the time and I can count the floors I’ve climbed in a day. I’m obsessed.

Sunny weather

It’s been so nice to see sunshine every day. It finally feels like spring has kicked in for reals. I’m so ready.

Great social connections

Even though I’ve been feeling exhausted and a bit burnt out this week, I have been lucky enough to socialise a little. I know some rad people who make me laugh. The kinds of people I can chat with about anything. Very grateful. I often feel like I walk a very fine wire between being an introvert and an extrovert. If I get the balance out of whack I fall off and I feel like shit. I think I got it right this past week and that is always a great feeling.

Other stuff that’s made me happy…

  • Facing things that made me feel nervous and then finding that they weren’t so scary.
  • Resting when I needed to. Listening to my body.
  • Awesome people entering the competition for my Banana Boat giveaway – I feel like so much less of a loser when that happens haha. Give it a go – there’s still a week to go before it closes x
  • Not having writer’s block for a week.
  • Snap chatting with friends and family. It’s silly but it’s fun.
  • Watching the Little Mister and our dogs running about on my parents’ property.
  • My bed. Because I love sleeping in it. Ha.
  • The West Coast Eagles making it into the AFL grand final – YOU BEAUTY!

What has made you happy this week? x

The Happy List #13

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A lot of people are superstitious about the number 13 being unlucky, but around these parts it’s a number we quite like. For me, it’s kind of a rebellious thing. Also, I love any numbers made up of 1s and 3s. So, I can’t believe this is the 13th Happy List that I’ve written! I’ve stuck at it – yay!

This week has been a little difficult online. At times it can be really hard to see the positives, when our politicians are so awful (I lack better words right now) and the treatment of asylum seekers both here and around the world is so…well, you’ve seen the devastating imagery.

But I am determined to see the good that is in this world. Because for every evil act, there are a lot more people who condemn it. I hope that those who need their voices heard the most, will get their day. I really do. I definitely don’t see the world with rose coloured glasses, but I think it’s OK to dream. To put positive energy (and action) out there in the hopes that it might make a difference one day – even if it’s just to one person, or five or twenty five. Imagine if everyone did that?

So here are the things that have made me happy this past week…

Catch phrases

The Little Mister has a new favourite catch phrase. He likes to point things out that he’s noticed and add, “How FUNNY IS THAT?” to the end of everything, even if it doesn’t quite make sense. It just sounds so cute and hilarious coming from a 3 year old. I remember thinking this phase was pretty funny when my younger (only) brother was the same age. Sure, I found it embarrassing too, but as a mum I think it’s awesome. I need to write all these things down. I’ve been told by many more experienced mums that you forget this stuff all too easily, despite swearing you never will.

The Little Mister dressing himself

OK, so it can be a double edged sword (he can take forever and sometimes he makes some odd choices – socks on his hands etc), but it’s hard not to be stoked for him when he’s grinning his little face off with pride – even if his T-shirt is on backwards. It might be trying at times, but in the long run it means we’re heading towards him being so much more independent. YAY!

My azalea flowering

It’s so pretty! I feel like this somehow means I’m good at gardening. Even though it wasn’t me that planted it (Mr Unprepared was responsible) and watered it (thanks to the Little Mister’s obsession with watering cans). Still. It’s a win. It’s still alive. And it’s got pretty flowers. YES. I shall take the glory anyway!

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Silly realisations that I’m an adult

I’ve mentioned before that I have re-become a big fan of colouring in. My creative side comes flooding out of me and it’s probably a much needed break from screen time. I love imagining all the colours and then bringing the image on a page to life. I can’t draw for shit, so colouring is the next best thing. The other night I was thinking, “Oh man. I’m only using certain coloured markers the most. What if they run out of ink really quickly? WHAT WILL I DO?!”

And then I laughed. Because I realised in that moment that I was thinking just like the kid me. You know, when you had to wait until a new school term for new textas or you had to ask your parents and you might need to wait until your next birthday or something. I mean, I’m not exactly rolling in it, but HOLY CRAP I’M A GROWN UP AND I’LL BUY NEW TEXTAS WHENEVER I WANT, MOTHERF*CKERS. DO YOU KNOW HOW AWESOME THAT IS???

Being a grown up can suck in so many ways, but man there are perks too haha.

Just don’t tell the Little Mister 😉

Finally putting photos from our wedding into albums

So we got married in 2007. That was a fair while ago. Back then, Pinterest was just a dream and Facebook wasn’t even that popular yet. As for Instagram…nope! If you had fancy boutique/niche style ideas, good luck with those!! It’s crazy to think about. When we got married, it was still cool to have disposable cameras (with FILM IN THEM) on each guest table at the reception. WHAT? Yeah, I know digital cameras were well and truly a thing, but we hadn’t quite let go at that point.

Anyway…it was cool to get the films developed (ha still hilarious) and see the wedding from everyone else’s points of view. Moments we hadn’t been privy to as we did our duties as bride and groom, trying to spread ourselves around and get to each of our guests with limited time.

Also, there were a few nipples and other questionable body parts. Our friends are all class haha.

Anyway, I finally bought a couple of albums and put everything into them. EIGHT YEARS later. It felt like a real accomplishment. And it was fun to relive memories that had faded over time.

Other stuff that’s made me happy:

  • wine & Bacardi (duh).
  • making our own play dough for the first time (I felt like a real mum – whatever that is haha).
  • suckering Mr Unprepared into watching a chick flick on a Friday night (and I think he kind of enjoyed it – shhhhh).
  • the Little Mister spoiling a Father’s Day surprise for Mr Unprepared a day early – it was so funny (he’ll act surprised tomorrow).
  • hearing the Little Mister singing along to Roar by Katy Perry. For some reason he’s taken a big liking to it and calls it the Tiger Song. While we’ve had it on painful repeat (and it’s never been a favourite of mine despite my own questionable music taste), I am so glad it’s a song with a positive message and little kids messing up the lyrics is kind of adorable (sometimes).
  • Snapchatting with my bro since he’s moved to Melbs. I live every day grateful that he finally added me haha.

 

What has made you happy this week?

 

The Happy List #9

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The time has come to think about the stuff that made me happy in the past week. Things are getting slightly better around here. I had a week where I fought off my old frenemy anxiety (haaaave you met Patrice?), but I think I’m starting to come out the other side. The Little Mister hasn’t been sick all week (probably jinxing it yet again but what the hell). It’s August. I’m starting to see light at the end of this wintery tunnel.

A Saturday sleep in

This never happens. In fact, I technically didn’t sleep in, but I love having the ability to get up on my own terms while Mr Unprepared tends to the Little Mister. This has hardly ever happened in the past few months because of his full on cycling habit (and training for an upcoming charity ride). It’s nice and it’s peaceful. And I’m using it to blog haha.

My mum’s birthday

On Thursday, my mum turned *cough probably shouldn’t tell you cough*. It was lovely to go to lunch with her, my brother and dad even popped in on his lunch break from work. It was like old times! I had the yummiest Japanese style tempura and panko crumbed prawns. Still not the authentic ramen I’ve been missing since we went away last year, but pretty great!

We’re going to my parents’ today. My grandparents and uncle will be there. I love extended family catch ups. There’s not many of us but it’s a lovely close knit group. I made my mum a lemon meringue pie for sweets (my first ever attempt) and I cannot wait to cut into that bad boy and see if I got it right! My mum doesn’t know what I made yet and has been very clear about wanting it to be a surprise. I’m hoping she doesn’t read my blog until afterwards haha.

Sneak peek (it’s not as pretty as I thought it would be – bit too brown – but nothing seemed to go horribly wrong so that’s a win!)…

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Rain on the tin roof at night While I am completely and utterly over winter, there’s one thing I can still enjoy about it. I love the sound of it on our tin roof. When we first moved in, I thought it was SO LOUD because I’d always lived in houses with tiled roofs (I totally googled the plural of roof and I am told the modern version is roofs so glad I cleared that up). Now I love it. Must be like a peaceful white noise type thing. As long as I am inside, all voluntarily snuggled up when it happens, it is just lovely.

The Little Mister falling asleep on the couch You don’t understand. All his life, he’s never been the ‘spontaneous fall asleep anywhere’ kind of baby/kid. It would only ever happen if I’d rocked him or he’d been in the car or something. I’d seen all those pictures on Facebook of children falling asleep into their dinner or in the middle of doing something cute and thought, nawwww – that’s so adorable! Why doesn’t the Little Mister do that? Where’s the off switch? Well, this week I got my wish. Sure, it was 4pm but it was just beautiful. He was snoring like a tractor, with a drool puddle on the couch cushion the size of his head, but it made me so happy. Also, he’d been reeeeally annoying just moments earlier, so the quiet was nice haha.

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Running 1km without stopping While I admit that I haven’t really been on the treadmill as much as I could have this week, I was pretty excited to reach a new little milestone a few days ago. I can now run 1km without stopping (at 8km an hour for those playing at home). That’s like 1/5 of my goal to run 5km by the end of the year! Yay! I just hope I can keep it up! Still counting down until I can get out and about – I think it wouldn’t seem like such a slog if I was in the real world, looking at real scenery.

Other happy stuff…

  • The Little Mister sassing me when I was prepping the ingredients for the lemon meringue pie. I was taking a while and he looked at me and said, “You’re not making Nanna a cake – you’re just mucking around!” I couldn’t keep a straight face. Smart arse.
  • Cuddles on the couch with the Little Mister last night. We watched Marley and Me (until the sad part when the DVR conveniently cut out).
  • The Little Mister being well enough to attend day care 2 times out of 2 this week! A winter miracle! I even got to go to work!
  • Getting my little pay packet right when things were getting squeezy – what a relief.
  • Watching the Little Mister achieve new things in swimming lessons last night. What a little star.
  • My nail polish took over a week to chip.
  • I ordered Mr Unprepared’s birthday present 🙂
  • A few days of sunshine – much needed!

What would you put on your happy list right now?

The happy list #2

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Here’s what’s been making me happy lately…

Staying cosy inside when it’s raining outside.

While I’m not really a winter person, I do love the occasional excuse to stay in all warm and cosy, when the weather isn’t particularly friendly outside. There’s something really comforting about having a roof over your head where you feel safe and snug while the rain beats down and the wind rages around you. It’s time for movies and warm food and having absolutely nowhere to go. I really feel lucky to be able to take my shelter for granted.

Re-living great memories of last year’s overseas trip.

I’ve been enjoying the ‘On This Day’ function on Facebook, lately. I’m such a dork, but every day I look forward to seeing what I was getting up to on that date, in previous years. At the moment, I’m cycling through great photos and comments and memories of our trip to Korea and Japan (and Singapore). On this day last year, we were in Hiroshima. All the memories come flooding back in the best way. Everything from the powerful experience of visiting the museum, to the beauty of the city and the fun we had exploring with one of my brother’s old school friends and his fiancee who live in Japan.

I think I’ll feel a bit sad when the memories stop cycling through my Facebook. But that would be an item for a ‘sad’ list and this is a happy list…moving right along!

Getting back into routine (I hope). 

Most of last week, the Little Mister had a cold that wanted to linger. So he missed two of his day care days and he was somewhat quarantined a lot of the time. My plans were all over the place and I had to miss work and a solo trip to the city. Even my time to exercise suffered a bit. It wasn’t that bad (we did get some awesome quality time together and he wasn’t deathly sick – still my happy dude), but it did feel a bit chaotic and not very productive. Now it’s a new week and I’m looking forward to getting my momentum back and feeling more on top of everything! You know, before the next thing happens to break routine again, because that’s life!

A selfish Friday night in. 

On Friday, Mr Unprepared had a bucks night to attend, so once the Little Mister was all tucked up in bed, I had the evening to myself. I’d thought that I’d miss the hubby, but honestly, when I realised I could have some selfish me-time, the perks were quite good! I could stay up later without disturbing anyone (usually Mr Unprepared passes out early because of his cycling routine so I tend to begrudgingly take myself to bed before I’m really sleepy most nights of the week – even the weekends). I watched chick flicks and read blogs without feeling conflicted about how to spend my time. I didn’t have to watch the footy (although our team won so that’s awesome). I fell asleep watching How I Met Your Mother on Netflix in bed. I spread out like a happy starfish haha. It was wonderful! Only thing missing was wine, but I couldn’t be bothered going to the bottle shop earlier in the day – laziness wins over wine in this house, quite often haha. It is nice just being selfish sometimes.

Chicken soup. 

I’d been feeling gross all weekend. Fighting off the Little Mister’s cold and eating some not-really-good-for-me food will do that. So Sunday was a great day to detox a little. I ate really simply and made a yummy chicken soup for dinner. I felt SO much better after. It really does have healing qualities, that stuff, don’t you think?

Making plans. 

Over the weekend we booked Lion King tickets for 2016. I am SO excited. The Lion King was a big deal in my family growing up. We went nuts over it. My brother and I wore out the VHS version we owned. We knew all the songs. We had the soundtrack. My parents loved it too. It was oddly a real bonding experience that lasted several years! We even have strangely fond memories of the car breaking down on the way home from watching it at the cinema for the very first time haha.

So we’re all going to go to the musical together (with Mr Unprepared who can finally see our Lion King madness firsthand)! Yay!

We’ve also decided when/how we’ll celebrate our wedding anniversary later this year too. We’re going to spend a night in a nice hotel in the city and get away as a couple for the first time in a long time. So. Excited. We can eat dinner somewhere cool that we’ve heard about but never been to (because kid) and just hang out. The two of us. It will be so good. I can’t wait. We don’t get enough date night time, so this will be a big deal!

A part of me is worried I’ve jinxed everything by mentioning it ahead of time, but sometimes, just knowing something good is on the horizon can be a great sanity saver when you feel stir crazy!

So that’s this week’s list! Tell me – what’s been making you feel happy lately? x

The happy list.

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Look, I’m not gonna lie. I didn’t have a great day yesterday. Nothing bad really happened except for my mood. I had all of these dreams about being horribly angry and when I woke up… (you guessed it) I was horribly angry. Well, not right away (first I woke up too excited about sleeping in to actually sleep in – even though it was my sleep in day), but it was obviously there, just under the surface. I am sure my awful mood was caused by some super deep, subconscious, unresolved soul shit (in fact I know so) but we won’t go there right now! I hadn’t felt this disgusting for at least a year (very bad mood days seem to stick with you) and I feel like I’m still recovering today. I don’t know why I’m telling you all of this, but I guess to keep it real?

Anyway, today is a new day. That’s the beauty of life. There’s always a tomorrow with no mistakes in it yet. Yeah, yeah. Cheesy, I know. But it’s true.

So I thought I’d try to turn things around by focusing on the things that are making me happy lately. I don’t want to waste any more time on bad feelings (my personal journal has already had quite the work out this morning haha).

Feeling like a good driver. 

I know that sounds funny, but I used to love to drive. For the sake of driving. I would pride myself on being really good in traffic. Instinctive and just really in the moment. Just me and my car stereo. Yesterday, when I ran away from home for a few hours for some retail therapy (there was just no other choice), I got to drive for an hour each way. By myself. Just me in the moment. I finally felt like a good driver again. I was present.

I kind of get why people think parents with ‘baby on board’ are bad drivers (you don’t have to have the sticker in the window for it to be obvious – trust me haha). We’re always thinking about something else – our brains have so many tabs open. It’s harder to focus. We’re always about the destination and not the journey. I’ve missed being all about the journey. Driving well gives my confidence a boost too. I was going somewhere I hadn’t gone alone to in a long time. I had to remember all the little tricks – which lanes to be in and all the rest of it. Sometimes it feels a bit daunting when you’re stuck in the suburbs a lot (which is not exactly the big smoke), doing kid/household centric things all week. Getting back out of my comfort zone (kind of) reassured me that I have still got it. I think I just needed the alone time. I must remember to enjoy the drive more.

Triple J’s 40 Years of Music.

My favourite radio station is celebrating its 40th year and each day this month they have been playing music from a certain year. They pick a year (at 10am and 3pm) and they play music only from that year for an hour. You never know which year they’re going to play and it’s brought me so much joy. So many memories are wrapped up in music, you know? I’ve enjoyed a couple in particular. My last year of high school (2001) and 1994. I think perhaps that 1994 was the first year I really became so aware of music and how to find it for myself on the radio. I am proud of my music taste from back then at the ripe old age of 10. I get so sentimental! Here’s the one song that literally converted me to Triple J forever. The moment my life changed and a whole lot of other amazing music came into my life, bringing with it new memories. Oh, it brings a tear!

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Chocolate brownies. 

OK, so maybe they shouldn’t be on the happy list because they are a little counter productive to my fitness mission, but THEY MAKE ME SO HAPPY at the moment. And the packet mixes that require very little effort? Even better. I think they are my official Winter of 2015 comfort food. Oops. I guess I’ll just have to be extra healthy in many other ways haha. SO WORTH IT.

Gold coloured rings.

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They are my latest guilty retail spending pleasures. There’s something I love about the gold bands. Even my wedding ring is a simple gold band. I don’t have massive fingers, so really chunky stuff doesn’t suit me, but I can buy every variation of a gold band forever. The ones above are my latest purchase from Lovisa (not sponsored – just love them). I may be crap at buying the perfect necklace or remembering to put on some nice earrings, but rings are always a winner for a low maintenance (read: lazy) gal like myself.

My new food processor.

It’s not a fancy one. It’s fairly basic but a reliable, affordable brand. And I love it. I have used it heaps. I love making cauliflower mash and fried cauliflower ‘rice’ with it. The other day I used it to mix a shortcrust dough for a quiche and it was a thousand times better than when I’ve attempted it all by hand! It’s the kitchen appliance I didn’t know I needed and I’m stoked with it. So many recipes suggest you use one and I kept putting all of those to the side, thinking I’d never buy or use one. I was so wrong. It’s awesome. You don’t need to spend thousands to achieve good things 😉

So there it is. There’s my happy list. I feel a bit better already.

What would you put on your happy list today?