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The Happy List #50: Birthday Week edition.

Last week was my 33rd birthday week. Not just a day, but a week! I sure know how to milk something for all its worth haha. But y’know, sometimes you have to stagger out some of the celebration/s and somehow it just becomes one big festival of birthday. I am not complaining! I think being alive for another year is always something to celebrate, whether you’re 1 or 100! Or you know, some kind of obscure, non impressive, non-milestone number like 33. Although, 3 is my lucky number, so two of them next to each other has to be a good omen, right? RIGHT? Oh goodness, I hope so!

I had so so much to be happy about in the past week or so and I sincerely thank everyone who had anything to do with me enjoying my birthday so much. You’re awesome.

Here are just some of the many things that made me feel happy…

Celebrating with my MG (we’ve been over this – it stands for mums’ group)

We don’t just celebrate our kids’ birthdays, but our own too, and I was so excited to have a girls’ night out! Not only do these girls have my back in so many tough situations, but they’re a shitload (technical mathematical term) of fun to hang out with in the good times too. We had dinner and I had pork belly and mojitos and the bitches wouldn’t let me pay for anything and they surprised me with a gorgeous gift and man, am I a lucky girl.

Our night after that was just an average bogan night on the home town (if you lived here you would understand ?), but good company made it so awesome. We danced to ‘pub rock’ played by a cover band, the 40 something year old front man sporting dyed black hair and a ginormous flavour savour – which is how all pub rock should be delivered – and sang all the back up vocals loudly from the dance floor whether anyone wanted us to or not. I really think that classic pub rock playlists have not changed one bit since before I was born and that it is quite amusing.

It felt really good to be out and about, with a new outfit and a face of make up too. Feeling like I’d actually made an effort! What a novelty!

Getting my guitar out

Some of you may have already seen my Insta story on the topic, but basically I hadn’t played my guitar since some time in 2010. It’s a beauty and she’s as good as new because sadly, she got put away not too long after I received her as a birthday gift from Mr Unprepared back then. We had a quite terrible year that year, followed by a year in which we became parents (which is awesome but time consuming – HA HA HA) and I just never picked it up again. Just kept it in its bag and moved it from room to room.

I’d mentioned to Mr Unprepared that I’d love to get playing again (especially to share the joy of music with the Little Mister), but that I’d like to get a few things for it first. He listened and he took care of everything! I walked into my office on my birthday morning to find my beautiful baby with new strings, a flash tuner, a new stand and even a matching pick.

AMAZING. She’s more beautiful than I remembered and she sounds AWESOME. I am so grateful. I’ve got to face the fact that I will have to cut my beautiful manicure short to play properly but that’s OK haha.

Turns out I only remember how to play (I use the term ‘play’ very loosely – I’m no musical prodigy) Blink 182 songs…might be time to update my repertoire (and grow out a nice flavour savour BAHAHA).

Dinner with my little family

I appreciate any family bonding time as a little family of 3 so much. We hadn’t been out to dinner, just the three of us, in so long. It was so great. Of course we laughed our arses off at being in the restaurant at 5:30pm (a five year old’s hangry meltdown avoidance strategy) – it was empty! Mr Unprepared joked that he’d booked the whole place out just for us for my birthday. He thought he was Kanye West or some shit. It was great, though. The Little Mister was very well behaved and if he occasionally forgot his indoor voice, nobody was there to notice!

The food was great (it was so well presented I felt like a Masterchef judge when I shoved a fork into it) and the mojito was strong. Perfect! I think we should do that more often, birthdays or no birthdays!

Online splurging shopping

On my birthday, I was feeling really disillusioned with the current clothes shopping situation in my home town. There’s not a whole lot of variety to choose from at present. I was feeling frumpy again and I wasn’t sure if I’d have anything cute to wear for my girls’ night out. I also realised that I lacked a great casual wardrobe that is easy to put together as we transition from summer to autumn to winter. It’s that weird in-betweeny time.

Luckily, I remembered that I had internet access and some birthday money! After some false starts (dodgy aforementioned internet and some crap where I had to call my bank), I finally picked out a great wardrobe for myself (with everything 40% off)! Almost every top and skirt will mix and match, can be layered up for winter and should be fat day/PMS proof (fingers crossed I’ve nailed the sizing because I fluctuate like a mofo)! SO EXCITING. I am impatiently awaiting delivery!!

Getting my hair did

I was very excited to make a hair appointment for the first time since August 2016. My hair was getting really long and I would describe the style as blaaaaaaaaaaah. I was quite over it.

I went to my fave salon and they did some magical shit. We’re working on gradually lightening some panels under the top layers so I can rock some rainbow inspired hair (currently the turquoise is working for me). Which means I’ll have to go back again soon. Bummer. NOT!

I also got a beautiful cut – a long bob which falls just right – because my hairdresser is a genius. SO GOOD.

I know it’s such a cliche thing to say, but there’s nothing like a fresh hair style/colour to really make you feel good about yourself. It has given me such a boost!

It can be a bit hard to keep this stuff up financially, but I think I will try harder this year to prioritise it.

Other stuff that has made me happy:

  • Wrapping up my 100 happy days photo challenge – more on that later…
  • Absolutely nailing my ANZAC biscuit making
  • The Little Mister attending his very first ANZAC Day dawn service (and being so good)
  • Lilac fingernails
  • Surviving the school holidays with only a couple of “OMFG WHEN WILL THIS END” moments
  • Nailing all of my self care goals for the week – it felt so self indulgent but I must have really needed it – been through the wringer and back with all of the infertility/fertility stuff I guess
  • The Little Mister’s musings about just about anything (as long as he isn’t interrupting the grown ups incessantly or whingeing of course haha). He makes me laugh.

What has made you feel happy lately?

The Happy List #49

Well, hello there Monday! How the hell are you?

I am glad it’s a new week. Last week was quite emotionally draining. I made the most of it and there were definitely lots of positives to be experienced, but I think that the craziness that was my March finally hit me. You know when you’re in survival mode, so everything’s go go go and you don’t have time to think or even feel? And then you finally come back to a baseline of normality and it’s a bit of a crash? That.

So I’ve decided to start this fresh week with a focus on the positives!

Here are some things that have made me happy recently ?

Not having to make school lunches/do school runs/wake up earlier than my kid.

Yep. For almost 3 weeks, I do not have to pack a single lunch box. YES. That is one definite highlight of the school holidays around here haha. While I do still have to feed my child (it’s kind of uncool not to), I won’t have to worry about what fits in the lunchbox or being as strict about what I put on his plate. There’s no ‘night before’ deadline to freak out about each evening when everyone’s exhausted. I can make it on the spot while the Little Mister whines at me each day. Ha!

Not having to do school pick ups and drop offs will save me a couple of hours a day. And it means our daily routine can be a bit more relaxed. I have a few things planned for my quality time with the Little Mister which is nice.

Instead of waking at 6:15am each morning, I get to wake up at 7am. This is exciting (because I clearly have a lot going on).

While I’m aware of several drawbacks of school holidays, this is a HAPPY list so shhhhh. I’ll be driven insane soon enough hahaha.

My #kezgetsphysical achievements over the last two weeks.

I have been looking after myself more. It can be hard to make myself and exercise a priority but I pushed through and exercised properly 6 times in the last week and a half or so. I ate a bit cleaner (things weren’t perfect and I am not too worried about that). I think that all of this helped my mental health and I really am enjoying the fact that my body already feels better. I am less bloated and I am tightening up all the bits that were getting a bit softer/wobblier after a bit too much time off.

I lost a total of 1.2kg and I am hoping to bust through my usual plateau soon, so I don’t have to keep coming back to the same spot over and over!

The school holidays may prove a little challenging for me, but lots of YouTube work outs and spontaneous dance parties with the Little Mister will hopefully make up for the lack of treadmill time aka alone time haha.

I’m really happy because I do not take my health or my ability to do what I want with my body for granted after some of the fertility stuff I’ve had to deal with in the last 2-3 years.

Fresh air at my parents’ house.

I don’t know whether it’s the change in the air from summer to autumn, but I’ve been getting so much pleasure from standing outside at my parents’ place (they live on 5 acres), looking at the trees and taking in nice deep breaths of fresh air. I know. I sound so zen. I’m not but I like to fake it ’til I make it haha.

Group video chatting with the fam on my brother’s 30th birthday.

My family can be a bit scattered all over the place at times. My brother is in Spain right now – his treat to himself for surviving the first 30 years of his life! My parents were recently at a location wedding. We wanted to catch up so we had to school ourselves on group video chat technology. Tip: Messenger is pretty good.

It was pretty funny. We made fun of ourselves for all being old now (with the exception of the Little Mister). My brother kept disappearing and cutting out – that was when he didn’t have a terrible robot voice.

I just love how people can be ‘together’ even when they’re all over the world now.

A surprisingly productive work week.

It felt good to get lots of stuff done. I was really lucky to have an amazing a bit of copywriting work thrown my way and I’ve really enjoyed it. I think that because life has calmed down a little (for now anyway), I was able to really knuckle down with less distractions/disruptions. Felt good.

Here are some other things that have made me happy:

  • Having a quiet drink when I feel like it.
  • Being able to confide in my friends (both online and offline).
  • Apple with peanut butter – best snack ever! How has it taken this long for me to get on board?
  • The fact that it’s April – one of my favourite months of the year. My brother’s birthday, mine and Easter have always come together. I also love those mild (but still pleasantly sunny/warm) Autumn feels.
  • Reading a little more – right now it’s The Wrong Girl by Zoe Foster Blake.
  • It’s been a few days now and I still haven’t messed up my side of the bathroom vanity!
  • Snuggles with Mr Unprepared. Laughs too.
  • Rewatching Offspring on Netflix. Watching Billie and Mick’s fertility struggles has taken on a new meaning now. We weren’t struggling when it originally aired. I feel like I get it more now. I really do. It makes me feel so good that they touched on that.
  • Making little plans for activities the Little Mister and I can do these holidays. I know we’ll probably only tick off half the list (if that) but it’s nice.

What has been making you happy lately? Share the love!

Let’s talk about my 2016.

2016 and I have had quite the relationship. If I had to make it Facebook official, I’d be selecting “it’s complicated” as our relationship status.

Because there have been aspects of it that have sucked, but if it hadn’t sucked I might not have had such a good year. Are you confused yet? Like, on the one hand, I want to say this was the worst year ever. But on the other hand, I feel like I really had some amazing break throughs and adventures. I feel like I can’t completely write it off.

Let’s start with the stuff that sucked (in the name of getting it out of the way)…

OK, so maybe it was just one thing. It really really sucked to not be able to conceive a sibling for the Little Mister. Honestly, most things that sucked about my year stemmed from this. I estimate that I had blood taken from me at least 36 times (not including that month I was completely drained of everything having blood tests almost every second day of my cycle or the extra times we needed to be sure of something or when I had my initial standard tests when we decided we needed to get help). Yep. 36 times were just the routine blood tests. Routine. I hate that fucking routine. Some of those tests may have been late 2015 but I can’t be bothered fact checking right this second. I had a lot of blood taken, OK?

I also had at least 12 internal ultrasounds (you know what ‘internal’ means). Yep. It’s a pretty all-up-in-your-bits, confronting experience. Especially when most of the time, the results show it was a waste of time.

I had surgery. A laparoscopy/hysteroscopy. It was nerve wracking. I was sick a lot through winter – so much more than usual. My immune system was so screwed up and I really think it had a lot to do with all of this.

Maintaining some of my friendships proved really difficult. It was so hard to commit to things when you knew your period would/might arrive and wreck everything (and I’m not talking ‘normal’ periods – I’m talking hellishly heavy ones) or you’d be scheduling last minute doctor appointments and scans, all dependent on what your body decided or not decided to do at any given time. Or when you were sick all the time. Or when you’d had awful news and you were feeling so down that you just needed to curl up in a ball and have a brief pity party before summoning up as much resilience as possible to be able to get back up the next day. Some people bothered to ask about it and understood and showed me they were there no matter what, some people stopped checking in. I had to make some tough decisions to allow myself to stop feeling eternally guilty or left out. Or hurt.

Look, a lot of women go through this shit (and much worse). I hope I haven’t come across as totally melodramatic. While it has been an emotionally awful time, it did just become part of a routine and I did get on with it. What choice did I have if we want what we want? I guess, after two and a half years it starts to wear thin. I hope 2017 will be kinder in this aspect of my life.

Here’s the stuff that was good…

I had friends who really pulled through for me. I also learned how to develop friendships on my own terms so I didn’t always feel like I was at everyone else’s mercy when times were tough (the FOMO was strong in this one). I had friends who took the time to announce their pregnancies to me in the most heartwarming, kind and compassionate ways. I felt honoured to be told the way I was and so thankful for their kindness. I hope if you’re reading this, you know who you are.

I found friends who stuck it out with me through the infertility stuff, who never judged when I felt down or couldn’t be there as much as I wished I could, and who comforted me even though I imagine they understandably didn’t always know what to say. You tried and you were there and I cannot thank you enough. You helped me to realise I’m a good friend still too – some things/people led me to be so damn hard on myself, but because of you I am learning to let go of that.

I finally swallowed my pride and joined some online support groups for secondary infertility. Finally, I was talking to people who had been through the exact same stuff as me. I have also found other groups with some of my blogging type friends, where I can just be me (even about the stuff that can’t be blogged).

I found strength inside myself that I never knew I had. I wish I didn’t have to exercise it so much, but I would never take it back! I even became a bad ass comic book super hero, thanks to the love of my fave arty friend, Em.

She has purple hair because I feel like you can’t not kick arse in life if you have purple hair (I dream of actually having purple hair – she’s a bit aspirational haha). Ripped jeans? Check. Lighthouse tattoo (to symbolise so many things but mostly keeping myself and my family safe but also radiating light) and a big heart tattoo, because through all of this I want to remain open hearted and be a lover of life.

Em? You are amazing. Talented. Kind. I shall hang this in my (STILL not completed) office so I can see it every day. She/me symbolises those moments when I am struggling but then I remember I am tougher than anything that is thrown at me and I get the fuck back up. It’s probably a little weird but I have genuinely imagined this ‘hero’ every time I’ve struggled – she’s been so helpful. I highly recommend getting yourself made into a comic book hero (and I’m not even usually into that stuff!)! Hey, whatever works!

I had to ditch a lot of fear and stress. I lost a few kilos (the stress weight I’d added by eating my feelings) and I started living healthier.

I became a school mum. It was nerve wracking at first and I felt awkward and like I just did not have my shit together for half the year (at least) but I made it to the end of the year with a Little Mister who has grown so much in so many ways (I love that kid so damn much). I don’t feel so scared anymore. I feel a lot more settled and I feel like myself again. I think I’ve got this (ha – we all know I’m speaking too soon).

I went on a few adventures too. I said yes to things I would have hesitated to do in the past. The best way to keep my spirits up was to change the scenery – have a little respite. Sure, I wasn’t getting pregnant, but I did not want to stop living my life. I might have felt like I was walking around with a big hole in my heart, but I filled my life with positive things – things I might not have done if I was pregnant. It was not a perfect consolation (nothing is) but it was all a wonderful distraction and a way to make the best I could out of the situation I was dealing with.

I went to Sydney, Melbourne, camping in Kalbarri, camping in Augusta, saw Josh Pyke twice, Bob Evans once and I fulfilled my teenaged dream of seeing Unwritten Law! We grabbed life by the you-know-whats and had so much amazing quality time as a couple and as a family. I said yes more but to the things I ACTUALLY wanted to do. No regrets!

My friend Alice moved to WA to be with my other friend Trent – I cannot say enough about how happy that has made me!

I had the courage/good fortune to go after a working life that makes me happy and fits in with my crazy life. I have jobs that fulfil my creative side, my love of good grammar and my ability to wear whatever the fuck I want at the office. I am grateful for the opportunities that I have been presented with. I like being a working mum (most of the time) and I am grateful that I can work flexibly, which helps me to overcome so many logistical challenges. My confidence has grown (after I had been out of the work force for a while) and I am excited to see where my professional life takes me.

What next?

I don’t know where 2017 will take me. I really hoped 2016 would bring me a baby or a pregnancy. I really thought I’d feel settled and more content. I guess I hope the same for next year (but with a few more adventures thrown in). I think I’ll be braver and I think I’ll be brighter. I do feel like 2016 shook everything up and put it back in the place it should be, all ready for next year. I just hope that fate comes to the party. I know I said that at the end of 2015 but shhhhh. I can’t help but be optimistic, even a little bit. Bring it, 2017. I hope that all of my loved ones have a good year too.

How was your 2016? 

The Happy List #45

Happy weekend, everybody!

I haven’t written a happy list in a while, but I’m feeling the urge right now. While life has had its challenges of late (thank you so much for the support – you know who you are), it doesn’t mean I haven’t had some great moments. Moments that I am really grateful for.

Here are the things that have made me happy in the past week or so…

Good customer service

It’s such a little thing, isn’t it? But sometimes, if you’ve been stressing about something, a friendly customer service person can make all the difference. I had to contact my private health insurer in a pinch the other day, and the lady (Liz – you are a legend and your bosses have been made aware that I’ve appreciated you) that answered the phone was awesome. She had this really down to earth spirit about her and from the moment I told her what I needed, she was laughing and chatting like we were old friends. I felt so at ease and looked after. I hung up the phone and I was still smiling. She didn’t just do her job, but she did it with an awesome attitude and made me feel important. Nailed it. I only wish more people followed her lead.

Sunshine! FUCKING OATH – sunshine!!

OK, so we just had the rainiest, coldest, windiest week. Also, are ‘windiest’ and ‘rainiest’ even words? Are now! I am sure it wasn’t too bad before last week, but it got so tedious that I cannot remember life before the shit weather started. That week felt like it lasted for a month.

But Friday was glorious. GLORIOUS. It made everything so great – like your fave social media photo filter.

It has still been cold, but the pure sunshine made it so much more bearable! It came at just the right time too, because I was starting to feel stir crazy and trapped.

Catching up with an old friend and watching our children play together

So I’ve known this friend for about 19 years (we’re getting so old) and recently, trying to catch up has been a challenge! But we got there in the end and the Little Mister and I hung out at her house yesterday. We got to meet her gorgeous toddler son and seeing our kids play together so nicely (even with the age difference) was heartwarming. We chatted and it felt like no time had passed. It was exactly what my soul needed (on so many different levels it’s not funny) and we even left with some home made chocolate cake to take home – amazing haha. I can’t wait to return the favour of hosting and the promise of baked goods – we figure that if we can at least catch up before the end of 2016, it will be a win!

Some people just make you feel so good in their presence. She’s a keeper. I hope I do the same for her.

Getting our taxes sorted

OK, so it doesn’t sound that fun, but you know when something has been hanging over your head and you feel overwhelmed by it, but then someone helps you sort it all out and the relief is just amazing? That. I’d been stressing because my income streams have been varied and intermittent over recent years and I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. I felt like I just hadn’t got my shit together in that area. Well, yesterday, the accountant helped me to adult better and now I feel so much better. I know I’m going to kick arse this financial year now! I should have done this ages ago!

My oven working again (and the keeping of perspective)

Last weekend, my oven died. I saw sparks coming out of it while Mr Unprepared tried to heat up a gross meat pie he got really cheap at the supermarket. Ew. Anyway, Mr Unprepared denied there was anything wrong (his back was turned while I yelled “HEY – THE OVEN LOOKS LIKE IT’S ABOUT TO CATCH FIRE!”) until he realised his pie was cold a few minutes later.

It’s funny, but any other time in my life and an oven in need of repairs would have been the biggest drama in my life and it would have warranted a social media post and a big whinge (I like baking and roasting stuff OK?). But this week, it was just stuff. Perspective was maintained. We got through the week and I even lost a little weight (haha). It turned out to be a melted, munted heating element which was replaced by Mr Unprepared in no time. It didn’t even cost much!

It was a good feeling that I didn’t let something like that get to me, when I could have easily let it be the inconvenient straw that broke the camel’s back after the past couple of weeks I’ve had.

Other stuff that has made me happy:

  • Having all the Little Mister’s grandparents around (after they’ve all been travelling) – helpful for babysitting and also cute to see how happy it makes him.
  • The worst of Mr Unprepared’s man flu passing us quickly.
  • Watching the Gilmore Girls on Netflix whenever I feel down – it always cheers me up.
  • When some doors close (or you close them yourself), you find a whole lot of others that were open all along, leading to more amazing places.
  • Finding online support with others who are dealing with secondary infertility. So wonderful to know you’re not alone and be able to talk about anything without worrying that you’ll kill the conversation with people who don’t know what to say.
  • Weekend plans to catch up with a friend who has just moved to WA (and her now live-in boyf – oh my!)
  • Messages from awesome readers/friends offering solidarity and emotional support when things have been tough. You guys are amazing.

What has made you feel happy this week?

The Happy List #37

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I’m experiencing  a touch of the Sunday blues right now – it feels like I have so much stuff to organise for the coming week – eep! But I’ll be fine – just have to write some lists. Lists make everything seem easier, I find!

But enough of that, here’s the stuff that has made me happy in the last week…

A night out with friends

Last night we celebrated the engagement of a couple of friends. It was a fun night out – so great to see everyone together in the same place. It was one of those great parties where you know almost everyone and you could mingle with ease and just be yourself. There were many hilarious, inappropriate conversations. It was fantastic.

I’d been feeling a bit out of the loop lately, as it felt like a lifetime since I had seen some of my favourite people in a social setting. It was nice to reconnect.

Bonus points to Mr Unprepared and I for good decision making. We didn’t get totally wrecked, we saved money and we got home nice and early (we were really needing it after a big week). Proud of us!

When you’re loving your own look

I know it sounds utterly vain, but I was loving my look for the engagement party. I had put in a lot of effort. I did my hair a little differently from usual (nothing fancy – just one side clipped back – something this moon face/double chin owner never has the courage to do). I was wearing a sexy dress (with a classy amount of cleavage – ooooh). I liked my make up. I only wish I had taken more selfies to record one of the rare times I felt that good about my presentation haha. I think I may have even been a little photogenic last night (please – don’t prove me wrong other people with cameras). What a waste!

I guess I just loved the confidence I felt. Feeling like you’ve still got it. No matter what you weigh or how rarely you make it out of the house. At night time. Kid free.

Working out again

I’d been in a big slump, exercise wise and this past week I decided it was time to re-motivate myself. I am back on the fitbit wagon (sometimes having a measure of what you’re doing or not doing can really get you moving) and I decided to start the C25K (an app that helps you to go from nothing to running 5km step by step) again from scratch. I’m going to ease my way back to where I was (about halfway through the program), and beyond.

It felt good to get moving again. I didn’t love the first work out I’d done in a while, but I finished it and I felt like I’d accomplished something. I know my body will love me for it.

Quality time with the Little Mister

As much as he can be challenging at times (it’s the fucking fours I tell you), I really love that kid. He’s actually a pretty good egg (hashtag blessed blah blah). We get less time together now that he’s at kindy 3 times a week and on Friday I loved just having a chilled out day with him. There were cuddles, he was better rested. He was a great little buddy to hang out with. It’s nice to be able to stop and appreciate him so much more. Life can get so busy and everyone can get so rushed. It’s nice not having to hurry him up.

A general feeling of survival – happiness that you made it through the week

Some weeks take it out of you physically and mentally. Last week was one of them. There was nothing like getting to Friday night and breathing out again. We did it. We made it through the week. Hallelujah!

I have a feeling that the next week will feel a bit the same (juggling appointments/fighting illness etc), but we can do this!

Other stuff that has made me happy: 

  • Well timed hugs when I really needed them (thanks Mr Unprepared)
  • Funny car conversations with the Little Mister
  • Nailing the school lunches (well mostly)
  • Fuller House on Netflix. It’s corny and it’s cheesy and has way too many in jokes referring back to the original Full House series, but gosh it takes me back to a simpler time in my life and it is kind of nice to be nostalgic.
  • Hearing Mr Unprepared bonding with the Little Mister on a Sunday morning while I sit in bed and write my happy list (my little me-time treat).

What would you put on your happy list this week? 

The Happy List #29

My Happy List is a day later than usual. Patchy internet and a busy schedule had a lot to do with it! I know I could have taken a break over the festive season, but I really didn’t want to because there’s been so much to be happy about.

Here are some of the things that have made me happy…

A relaxing Christmas/Boxing Day

For the first time in the 13 years Mr Unprepared and I have been together, we managed to finally realise the dream of only attending one location per day. We had our first Christmas on the 25th at my parents’ house and then a second Christmas on the 26th with the inlaws. So nice. We were able to have slow starts each day (which were much needed!) and a couple of times Mr Unprepared and I even had an accidental nap/food coma on the couch. There were great, thoughtful gifts, huge pavlovas and lots of quality family time at both.

The Little Mister’s excitement about Santa

I absolutely loved helping the Little Mister to prepare for Santa’s visit on Christmas Eve. We put out a carrot for the reindeer (something pulled from the bottom of the veggie drawer in the fridge), some cookies, rocky road and choc truffles – Santa was so freakin’ spoilt! We also put out a special key for Santa so he could get in our house, even though we don’t have a chimney. I had tried the whole ‘he can magic his way into anywhere’ thing but the Little Mister had been so worried about it that I’d caved and ordered a special key ahead of time this year!

On Christmas morning it was so awesome to see the Little Mister’s awestruck face when I told him Santa had come. I seriously love doing Christmas with a kid. So special. I hope we’re giving him some awesome memories.

Catch ups with one of my besties (and co)

I get so excited when my friend comes out from the US. It’s one of those drop everything – whatever it is – and catch up scenarios. So much fun is had. Yesterday we were able to celebrate her marriage to her great dude. They’d got married in Hawaii much earlier this year, but had a lot of loved people from home to share it with. We got to watch the ceremony video and I was all, “OH MY GOSH – THIS IS WHY I WANT TO GO TO HAWAII” and TRYING NOT TO BAWL. Even though it was only a video, it was just gorgeous and when my lady love got all choked up saying her vows and I saw the absolute grin on her husband’s face I became a ball of mush. They truly are good peeps.

Of course, afterwards things went a little nuts. We hit the town. Hard. I don’t want to alarm you, but there were mojitos and there was dance floor action. We are too old for that shit. But oh my goodness, it could only happen with them. Arguments were had over who is the worst influence (I am most certainly not interested in telling you what the majority consensus was) and I don’t think I’d laughed so hard in forever.

Let’s just say that this morning was not kind to me. Props go to Mr Unprepared – a great support in times of need!

Also, if anything about this post seems a bit off, like my brain has malfunctioned – it probably did.

LEGO

This year, the Little Mister graduated from the larger Duplo to the real deal. I love it for so many reasons (not sponsored haha). It gets him really creative and I get such a kick out of seeing the things he makes. I also love that he can literally sit there for hours playing with it quietly. It’s been so great when he’s needed some down time and when I was baking like a crazy woman before Christmas, he would sit at the breakfast bar and make some so he could be close to me. He was so well behaved and I was able to get so much done! It’s eclipsed the TV for babysitting rights, which is awesome haha.

A well earnt lazy day at home with the fam

I am so stoked to be able to chill all day at home with my little family. It’s been a crazy week month! It’s nice sometimes to just drop your social mask (and bra and make up and nice clothes and the belly you’ve been sucking in) and laze about a bit in your own space. Nothing like it.

Other stuff that has made me happy:

  • Air conditioning. It’s really a modern wonder in the hot summer.
  • That feeling of victory when you realise you’ve survived another busy Christmas and you can breathe out a bit again.
  • Seeing old pictures from my Gran’s family and learning a bit more about their history.
  • FaceTiming with my brother on Christmas Day. We missed him heaps but it was so great to have that stupid banter and feel like he was a part of our day.
  • Seeing everyone’s great Facebook posts for Christmas – so much love everywhere. I hope it was all real and that everyone had as much fun with their loved ones as it looked like.
  • Buying hangover food. Not the scientifically proven, healthy stuff that is actually good for your hangover cure, but the gross stuff that does nothing for you but just hits the spot.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas or that you survived it if you did not.

What would you put on your happy list this week? 

The Happy List #28

I can hardly believe it’s the last happy list before Christmas. I mean, it’s the 20th of December. We’re in the 20s. That’s when you know shit is getting serious. I’m a little overwhelmed about some last minute decisions, but I am going to try to take it all one bite at a time and remember my Christmas spirit when certain situations test me!

I hope that wherever you are, and whoever you are with, that you have a lovely Christmas to look forward to. If you are struggling at this time of year, I am thinking of you.

I am so glad I get to write this list, because it’s so nice to get back to basics and celebrate the good things that have happened in the past week. It seems like a good way to centre myself and move into the next busy week with a positive frame of mind.

I love this time of year, but it does get intense!

Here are the weird and/or wonderful things that have made me happy…

Coleslaw

Seriously. This was the first thing I wanted to write down haha. The summer weather has had me obsessed with the humble salad that is coleslaw! Not the pre-packaged, heavily dressed, overly chopped crap from the deli section at the supermarket (or from takeaway outlets) but the stuff that comes ‘dry’ in bags, fresh, pre-shredded and ready to serve however you like. I cannot get enough of the stuff. I’ve eaten it for lunch with a little bit of tuna (don’t know if that’s a weird combination – I can feel you judging me) or with a minimal amount of dressing or just on its own. Cannot get enough. Pretty sure it’s helping me to lose weight (a surprising but probably logical outcome), but I will admit things get a little more windy at night time if you know what I mean. OMG I can’t believe I just admitted that.

It’s just so fresh and light (at least the way I eat it) and easy!

I sometimes call it ‘slaw, because that’s what all the cool people are doing these days. It drives Mr Unprepared mad haha.

Finishing the Christmas shopping

That’s a big deal, right? What an achievement! Where’s my medal? I was lucky because Mr Unprepared was free to help with this task yesterday and it was so much easier with a (grown up) buddy! Yay for team work, as we navigated the busy shops and drove from place to place in what seemed like circles!

We rewarded ourselves with a pub lunch and some cider and beer. Did I mention we were child free? Amazing! A Christmas miracle!

The Little Mister’s adventure with his Nanna

For months, my mum was really excited about taking the Little Mister to the airport to pick up my dad (known to the Little Mister as Poppy). She wanted to show him the planes and do some special things with him. So cute. It was fantastic, because it coincided with Mr Unprepared and I needing to finish the Christmas shopping (see above) too!

They had a pretty awesome time, by all accounts. A lot of the time, the Little Mister wore a Santa hat and cuddled a Christmas teddy bear and it was pretty adorable stuff (judging from the photos my mum sent). They visited his beloved great uncle (the Little Mister had never been to his house). They visited the shops. They sang Christmas songs in the car. The Little Mister ran at his Poppy filled with so much excitement when he arrived. He shared the cookies he made the day before. He then slept all the way home haha.

I love when he gets to do stuff like that. It’s what memories are made of, don’t you think?

Remembering to buy paper towel

Ever have that one item that you keep forgetting to pick up when you’re at the supermarket and it gets really frustrating, but you’re a slow learner so it happens over and over again?

For me, in the past week it was paper towel. The day I remembered to buy it was a joyous day. I even bought the stuff that has festive Christmas tree patterns on it, for good measure. There was so much satisfaction in bringing it home and putting it on the holder. The first time I needed paper towel to wipe up a spill, I could not contain my joy – yes. I did it. I remembered to buy it. Winning at life. I was my own hero.

Realising that one of my favourite people is on her way home for Christmas/a wedding celebration from the US

I woke up on the 18th and suddenly realised my friend would be getting ready to get on a plane and come home for the holidays with her husband. Yay! I miss her all the time and distance never stops us from getting along like a house on fire. I can’t wait to catch up with her, celebrate her wedding again and see her family (who always make me feel like a part of the family).

 

Other stuff that has made me happy:

  • Admitting to friends that I like watching interviews on TV that feature Justin Bieber. I don’t know why, but I do. It’s so…interesting? Oh, gosh it shouldn’t be. It really shouldn’t. I’m not even into him or his music really (although it pains me to admit his latest singles aren’t so bad). I just like reading gossip about him. Anyway, admitting it is the first step to recovery, right? Gosh, it made me laugh so hard when they all admitted to being secret Beliebers ?
  • The Little Mister’s happy face first thing in the morning (what is wrong with me – in theory this should really annoy me haha).
  • The bittersweetness that came with the Little Mister finishing his time at day care. It’s 4 year old kindy next year!!! I also felt so glad I could express my gratitude (in a Christmas card that was attached to some chocolates) to the carers for being a big part in why I think the Little Mister is so ready for the next chapter. When I read their email (sent out to everyone) that the cards and pressies they’d received last week had made them so happy and teary (in a good way haha), I knew I’d done the right thing – I had debated over whether to do the gift thing or the heartfelt card thing and settled on both because I figured that everyone wants to know they’re appreciated. I can’t thank them enough.
  • Running into a couple of really good friends at the shops and being able to wish them a merry Christmas in person (and give squeezy hugs), as we weren’t likely to see them beforehand.
  • Having mature conversations on really touchy topics, without everything turning to crap.
  • Throwing myself an end of year ‘staff’ party at home (being a SAHM I figured I deserved recognition for my hard work all year). It involved wine, was catered by Dominos pizza delivery, entertainment by the Little Mister (my esteemed underling), music from the 90s, and I swanned about a bit without having to do anything I didn’t feel like. Props to Mr Unprepared who truly humoured me (smart man) haha.
  • Hearing from readers who are inspired by my happy lists. I cannot thank you enough for sharing with me.

What is on your happy list this week? 

The Happy List #25

As I sit here, I am just glad to have a quiet day ahead! The silly season has been intense and it’s not even December yet! I really love being a social butterfly but I treasure the quiet days too. Is anyone else like this? I don’t think I could ever go full extrovert. Right now is the perfect time to write another happy list!

Here’s what’s made me happy in the last week…

Meeting a real life Alice in the flesh!

I don’t know if you remember but I have mentioned Alice a few times in this blog’s lifetime. We met on Twitter and recently celebrated our 4 year Facebook anniversary. How modern of us. We have some mutual friends and we’ve always got along like a house on fire. Especially in all matters Kardashian or Catfish. Yes. We are trash TV soulmates. Speaking of Catfish, we have always joked about the possibility that either of us could just be one and this weekend we had the opportunity to discover whether or not that was the case! Alice came to Perth for a holiday and we totes met. Yay! We had lunch with Mr Unprepared and the Little Mister, before catching up for drinks with a couple of other friends. It was lovely. I hope I didn’t make a total fool out of myself, Kez style! I can’t wait for the next catch up. Tassie next time, mate?

Alice told me it is her goal to make it onto my happy list every single week…she’s doing pretty well at the moment – I told her to dream big haha.

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Catching up on my C25K work outs.

I was really sad when I had to stop running for a bit. I had been feeling really disappointed that I wouldn’t be able to do the 5km Colour Run when it was in Perth, for medical reasons (it was too close to a minor procedure). I recovered quickly enough (it did take about a week to feel like myself again), but then I admit I felt discouraged and a bit unmotivated. Not very NoExcusesVember of me, was it? I finally started to get some time to myself and some more motivation (a couple of my friends have been really great at inspiring me as they hit the gym and we share our exercise plans to stay accountable). I decided to re-start using my C25K app. It was a bit disappointing seeing the decline in my fitness, but it felt good to get back on the treadmill. I caught up this week and got past my last milestone on Friday! Gosh it felt awesome! Just gotta keep it up now. It’s getting intense but I’m noticing some little differences in my body again already. Yay! Which leads me to…

Feeling better in my clothes. 

The other night we had a family dinner to go to. I thought I’d throw on my trusty black peplum dress (the perfect go to outfit). I put it on and it was looser around my waist than it probably ever has been. I must be trimming up! So exciting. It’s really spurred me on to keep working on my running. It is obviously doing me some good. It’s made me feel more encouraged to continue. It’s nice getting out of a slump. I hope this is something that can get me through the holiday period. I would love to keep feeling good/comfortable at events when I’m all dressed up.

Also, I am loving when I have the time to fit a work out in before I go out somewhere. Peps this tired mum right up – gotta love those endorphins (and it makes me feel very virtuous before I pig out haha)!

Mr Unprepared bought himself some nice shoes.

I know this one sounds funny, but I really celebrate when Mr Unprepared goes shopping for himself for things that he can wear!! Even better if the things he buys are really great looking! He had to get some brown dress shoes to match some stuff he needs to wear over the next few weeks (one of those things being a groomsman’s suit at a wedding). He sent me some pictures of some grandpa style ones which scared the bejeezus out of me, but luckily after I sent him back some inspirational shoe pictures from Pinterest, he did a great job haha. Also, he scored them for 50% off! Gotta love technology. And sales. Especially sales.

Seriously. If you saw his shoe collection (if you can call it that), you’d know why I’m celebrating!!

Counting down the days until Mr Unprepared and I celebrate our wedding anniversary with a date night! 

It’s going to be 8 years of marriage. I don’t know what the traditional gift is for that many years, but we’ve decided to skip the material gifts and experience the gift of each other’s presence (spew – did I really just write that – what is wrong with me). Also, because neither of us has bought anything hahaha. We are just excited to have one whole night to ourselves. It’s going to be great. We haven’t got solid plans yet, but it’s fun to think about.

Other stuff that has made me happy:

  • The Little Mister’s laugh – always.
  • Bin day. I was so glad our really full wheelie bin got emptied. Look, sometimes it’s the simple things. An empty bin means a new week haha. Yes. I know. Poor environment 🙁
  • Knowing that soon it will be deemed acceptable to put my Christmas tree up and start an all out assault on the senses when it comes to Christmas related things. The Little Mister and I are going to have SO MUCH FUN.
  • Seeing the Little Mister’s potato plant growing up out of the soil (he planted a potato with Mr Unprepared one day a while ago to see what would happen). Having a kid makes you want to do things you never thought were fun or exciting before you had a kid. I was ACTUALLY excited. I don’t even know who I am anymore!

What is on your happy list this week? 

The Happy List #20

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I had PMS big time this week (there’s a great way to start a blog post), so I really wondered at times if I’d have anything to put on my happy list! Man, I was feeling ALL of the feelings, none of which were happy (unless you managed to catch me on a nice 5 second upswing before the down swing haha). I’m so fun to be around. But now that I’m sitting here, I’m exhausted but I can see the positives and I am really grateful.

Let’s get into it…

Good people making tough stuff so much better

I had to get an ultrasound this past week (no I am not pregnant – that’s the point). I was feeling anxious about it and I had to travel for an hour to get it done. I hadn’t been treated with much warmth and sensitivity by the person on the phone in my own hometown when trying to book (the ultrasound had to be at a very particular time in my cycle and I could not miss that window) and when you’re battling PMS, you really don’t handle being inconvenienced very well (I may have embarrassingly stewed about it all day haha). However, my mum and the Little Mister kept me company and turned it into a surprisingly nice day! The sonographer and his assistant were so lovely and put me at ease (I’ve heard horror stories of ones who are not so good with the people skills). There was no bad news to report. It really could have been a more harrowing and emotional experience than it was – I am so grateful for everyone that made it a little better. The Little Mister was a ray of sunshine and while normally I might find it a bit harder to drag him around, I was really grateful for my little buddy and for my mum who helped to look after him and who was awesome with the emotional support.

Fitting back into some of my clothes despite the emotional eating (and lack of exercise)

I’ve slacked off lately and I was worried that I was undoing my progress in toning up, so I decided to try on some dresses from my wardrobe. I figured that if I was busting out of every single one of them I would be motivated to fix that situation quick smart (I have a few events to go to in the next couple of months and I felt like I need a kick up the bum to stay in some sort of shape – even just for practical reasons – i.e. saving money on dresses). I also figured that if I looked good in some of them, I would find that really encouraging and it would be reason not to give up. Well, I was really pleasantly surprised! YAY! I felt comfortable in most of the dresses I tried on (like I would actually leave the house in them) and the one dress I was using as a measure (the one I couldn’t zip up at all the last time I tried it on) ZIPPED UP! ALL THE WAY! I am so glad to know I haven’t wrecked my progress.

I shall be back on the wagon very soon.

Feeling like a ‘real’ mum because I totally did some activities with the Little Mister from the Woolworths Ancient Animals file (not sponsored – just brainwashed like everybody else)

The Little Mister has become fascinated with collecting dinosaur cards for his file (if you spend a certain amount at the supermarket they give you some). Inside the file are lots of facts about dinosaurish type creatures (there’s a bunch of ‘eras’ and stuff that I can’t be bothered getting into) and some food based activities you can do with/for your kids. He noticed these (he’s very motivated by snack related things) and to my surprise, some of the activities were really simple and I had all the stuff (there’s a miracle – here’s the kicker – they were from the rival supermarket haha). We made dinosaur eggs y’all. I also made some kind of ancient anemone sandwiches with avocado and grated carrot and shit. For a minute there I felt like a really ‘good’ mum. Like the ones you see on TV and read about on OTHER blogs!

The Little Mister was stoked. Mum brownie points ahoy!

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Mr Unprepared

I just love that guy, you know? This isn’t a cop out, generic item for my happy list. It’s a real heartfelt, thank you for being there for me – this week I’ve really really felt it thing.

(even if he forced me to watch Star Wars with him last night when there were apparently back to back Channing Tatum movies on another network – it’s criminal!)

My online friendships

You know who you are. You’re the ones who I group message with far too frequently (causing Mr Unprepared to give me a quizzical look when I’m absorbed in your snapchats haha). You’re the ones who know my secrets and whose secrets I guard fiercely too. You’re the ones whose cycles synced up this month with mine because I swear that’s not a coincidence – we’re just too much lady power together hahaha. Any time of the day or night, we’re all there supporting each other. I am so lucky to have great friends both offline and online.

What is on your happy list this week? x

The Happy List #19

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I kind of hoped I wouldn’t have a blog that consists of nothing but happy lists (as positive as they are), but that’s what’s happened between last week and this week. I mean, you might not have noticed if I hadn’t said anything…so maybe I should just shut up haha. I had a bit of writers block, OK? Geez.

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Now let me just launch into the list of stuff that has made me happy in the last week or so…

I didn’t let Patrice beat me

Who’s Patrice, you ask? Well, she’s my anxiety. She’s a crafty bitch and she tries to sneak into my mind when I am tired or PMSing or if something triggers me. I had days where I caught myself thinking too much (yes – it happens) and I am so proud that I stopped myself when I realised it was pointless chatter inside my head (my usual precursor to a Patrice attack). I wrote a page in my new journal and I then decided to stop thinking and let everything go. Like literally sit there for a minute and zone out watching TV or putting my energy into other things. No trying to analyse why I was overthinking or why I felt a bit…off (hopefully my fellow anxiety peeps will get this as funny as it does sound)!

I also tried hard to remember to communicate my anxious feelings to Mr Unprepared better. I was feeling anxious about a certain situation so I texted him my questions (with the explanation that I know Patrice can be annoying but did he mind?) and he was really supportive – by the end of the day he had answered every single one (that makes me sound really full on but there weren’t that many and he needed the answers too anyway). They were all practical details and it really helped me to support him in return. Yay teamwork.

A big weekend full of great friends

This weekend was huge. Usually the introverted part of me would be screaming on the inside by the end of it, but I really feel like it was just what I needed this time around. The Little Mister went to a fantastic birthday party, a great group dinner was had (it’s a long story but Mr Unprepared has just completed ANOTHER fantastic charity bike ride – he was a last minute fill in and he got to do it with two good friends – very proud of them), a DELICIOUS Sunday breakfast with the girls…

My waistline might not be thanking me, but my heart is full 🙂

Seeing my re-found organisational skills paying off

So I know I’ve gone on a bit about how I’m trying to live a little bit more intentionally and have tried harder to be organised, but I’m going to have to mention it again! It’s so great having a big weekly planner up on the pantry door. I’m seeing that Mr Unprepared is totally on board and knows what’s going on each day without having to ask me. He’s being more proactive telling me what he needs to do and can see for himself if it fits in with our schedules, without having to bug me haha. It’s so good – less nagging required from either party! Wife win!

Date time with the hubby

Sadly, these days a ‘date’ with Mr Unprepared involves staying in after the Little Mister is in bed and ordering a pizza to be delivered (ROMANTIC OR WHAT). If we’re feeling fancy we might splurge on renting a movie through iTunes or even have a wine or beer. So when we got an opportunity to take some time for ourselves – child free – last week, we were excited. Sure, it had to work around the Little Mister’s day care hours, but we made it happen!

We celebrated being together for 13 years with a lovely breakfast, followed by a nice walk along the foreshore, followed by mini golf, followed by a viewing of The Martian at the cinemas (and man I loved it – was SO good – I’d see it again), followed by a spot of shopping (not as romantic but it was nice to have time to ourselves to wander around)! I feel like it really refreshed us – yay for being a couple! 🙂

Seeing people do good things for other people

This past week it has made me feel so mushy and heartened. Whether it is people reaching out to others on social media to show their love and support through tough times, Mr Unprepared and his friends riding for charity, or the great work that is done each year for Telethon. It can be that family member or friend who is always there no matter what. Bad things happen to good people all the time, but so many good people give back and it is truly inspiring. I am thinking of everyone who is struggling right now and I am thankful for those who help them through. Props for making the world a better place xxx

Other things that have made me happy: 

  • When TED talks motivate me to do my housework haha
  • Online grocery delivery – yay!
  • Play time with my friends’ kids – so cute – all of them.

What’s on your happy list this week? x